Eight Tips to Sweeeten a Souring marriage Part2

Marriage Clinic

Life itself is full of ups and downs; the understanding of one’s self is a very difficult and challenging task that pushes many to the valley of regret and confusion. If an individual cannot fully understand his antics resulting into irrational decisions, it therefore buttress the bitter truth that the staying together of two divergent individuals in marriage (not gay kind of marriage) can be a pretty difficult assignment and undertaking that requires absolute wisdom, prayer and dependence on God the institutor of the beautiful union of marriage

The universe operates on principles and rules, without which there will be confusion, lawlessness, anarchy and the eventual collapse of the global order. As it is in the universe so it is in marriage, the application of the principles and laws of conjugal bliss will inevitably give birth to a harmonious union. 

At creation God inspected and confirmed all that He made with the affirmation “it is good” including marriage. However, in today’s world, celebrities and Western demon influence ideologies have rack a lot of havocs on the marriage institution through the promotion of divorce, illicit sex and gay marriage… however, a recent report compile on marital harmony by National Lifewatch online reporters and magazine in Abuja, Nigeria, reviews that marital bliss still exists in many homes in Nigerian. Learn from these wealth of experiences to have an lasting blissful marital life. 

Mrs. Adewale Olutu Oshogbo from South West Nigeria narrates the secret that spiced up her marital life for over 41 years running. “People always asked us about the secret of our ever graceful marriage, without hesitation, I open up ‘it‘s being creatively romantic in every aspect’ my husband and I are just two creative genes who knows how to spring up with ideals to keep our marriage fresh and fat. So, the secret to our union is to always keep things interesting and exciting. Different strokes for different folks you would say. 

Sandra Davison 18 years of marital bliss is hung on the biblical principle of servant-hood "I believe there is one key trait that can make or break a marriage -- servant-hood. It may sound countercultural, but by considering your spouse's needs as much or more than your own, you can exhibit love and humility that will strengthen a marriage, not prohibit it. I found this to be true in my own marriage."

To me, Jim Ochia, My 33 years- old marital success has being built on respect and always wanting the best for each other. Therefore, we never allow the other to become complacent. We always encourage each other to learn, improve, and evaluate things in our lives that should be changed."

According to Etinosa Obasuyi his 31 years- old quenching loving marriage is anchored on sharing and friendship “we began our relationship as friends and still continue as friends. We were both dating other people but knew each other as friends. Eventually the partners we both had went their ways and we started seeing each other. Even during our formative years, I considered my wife a good friend and confidant. We shared and enjoy life together, these has helped cement our bond."

From Paul Aigbe in Ibadan “our 14 years of marriage is working because both of us understand and believe in comfort and we have work hard to implement this philosophy in the anal of our marriage. Which is why you can see us still glowing as new weds” indeed, marriage they say is a union and in a union there must be a memorandum of understanding for each other. 

Having a little gleam of Adam’s acceptance speech of Eve as “bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh” will make couples to see and love each other as one because no one ever loath himself as the bible says but loves, cherishes, forgives, comfort and motivates his or her interest at all situations, in essence, your spouse is just a part of you which deserves equal attention. 

This brings to mind the mind blowing testimony of a 55 years- old Desmond who had a memorable 25 year marriage anniversary and openly declared that he love his wife more than his children because they will all leave him some day to establish their own home, leaving him and his wife behind till death do them part. 

National lifewatch also sort the views of the Michaels in Port Harcourt who have been married since 2001 they shone with undefiled joy as they opened the door to their marital haven "I respect my wife, her intelligence and wit, her beauty and grace, her openness and patience and her love and care [Also], a child-centric household is not only not good for your children, but also for your marriage. I highly recommend time without kids as a regular part of your schedule."

Nwosu’s experience of first marriage failure made him to identify earlier mistakes and improve his second marital journey “My oldest friends are the ones I share common interests and activities with, and I believe the same goes with marriage. My first marriage fell apart after our kids left the house, because without them, we had nothing in common. She had her friends and activities and I had mine. In reality it fell apart long before the kids left, because to be honest, we never really enjoyed doing the same things together. Thus we were married, but not really friends. I am now happily married for five years to a darling and we both love doing so many things together.

The Delta born Louis Amatas are not shoved out of this conjugal bliss compilation with their wonderful secrets "the first thing we do to keep our marriage blissful is building it after the partner of God’s love for Israel and Christ love for the church. Also, we identify communication as an essential ingredient because over ninety percent of the world's problems are a result of poor or non-existent communication. If either of us wants something, we ask. If we like or dislike something, we say so. If we are angry, we say so. Our reasoning is simple: This person chose me and has dedicated himself to me, and there is nothing that I can say that cannot be discussed and resolved. We don't agree on everything and we should not, but we respect each other and each other's position."

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